relationships are never easy. Whether it be friends, coworkers, family, or your significant other, we may, on occasion, wonder why some of our relationships are great, and others are in the proverbial toilet. Then we hear a great song on the radio and it seems it was written specifically for us. it inspires. that inspiration might lead to a change, it might lead us to work harder, or it might inspire us to appreciate the relationship even more. the point is, I was pondering one of my relationships this evening and heard a song that perfectly represented the relationship I was thinking about. You see this relationship has been on my mind quite a bit over the last year. I was thinking about the relationship with my golf game. we've been having some differences of opinion lately, and I just wasn't sure what to do about it. lately I've been avoiding the golf course due to these differences. Everyday I drive past the course and longingly look at that manicured green grass. I remember all the good times my golf game and I had on the course. A smile comes to my face. but then I think of the times my golf game has hurt me and my smile disappears. I speed up so as to pass the course as quickly as possible and get it out of my mind. And yet, it's always there, waiting to be called up from the depths of thought.
Tonight after work, I decided to go out and put some work in on "my relationship". it started great. We picked up right where we left off last. My golf game and I were in perfect harmony. It was glad to see me, and I it. And for a few glorious minutes, I couldn't remember why we ever stepped away from each other. Then, as it usually happens, my utter joy came crashing down as I started to hit it everywhere but where I wanted. "you always fall for this!" I said to myself. "You let down your guard, thinking THIS time will be different, but it NEVER is! You are a moron! You should go back and rekindle your relationship with Tennis!"
but feeling determined, I brushed those negative thoughts away and reassured myself that this relationship had promise. The night rolled on. there were ups and downs the entire evening. finally it came time to part ways, but this time with an agreement to not wait so long before seeing each other again. and as I walked toward my car, the song that epitomizes my relationship with my golf game came through my headphones.
(just for clarification, in the song, I'm Pink and my Golf Game is Nate Ruess)
Me speaking to my Golf Game:
Right from the start you were a thief, you stole my heart.
And I, your willing victim.
I let you see the parts of me that weren't all that pretty,
and with every touch you fixed them...
Just give me a reason
Just a little bit's enough
Just a second we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
It's in the stars
It's been written in the scars on our hearts
We're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
Golf Game speaking to me (slight suspension of disbelief here people, just go with it)
I'm sorry I don't understand
Where all of this is coming from
I thought that we were fine
ME: (Oh, we had everything)
Golf Game: Your head is running wild again
My dear we still have everythin'
And it's all in your mind
ME: (Yeah, but this is happenin')
Both of us together:
Just give me a reason
Just a little bit's enough
Just a second we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
I never stopped
You're still written in the scars on my heart
You're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
Oh, tear ducts and rust
I'll fix it for us
We're collecting dust
But our love's enough
You're holding it in
You're pouring a drink
No nothing is as bad as it seems
We'll come clean
from this song, you can tell that I feel very strongly about my relationship with my Golf Game. I think we're gonna be okay. time will tell. If you're like me and you too, are having trouble with a relationship in your life. I encourage you to ask yourself if that relationship is like any specific song that is out there right now. If you're not sure, here are a few suggestions of places to look: Any Taylor Swift song, Kelly Clarkson, The Cure, 80's ballads, Boyz II Men, NKOTB, Backstreet Boys, NSYNC, James Taylor, I'd imagine a lot of Country Songs, Journey, Marvin Gaye.... there are a multitude. Soundtracks to various Romantic Comedies, Celine Dion, John Tesh, and many many more. Once you find a song that you feel represents the relationship, study that song, and act on the inspiration it gives you. bottom line, just follow your heart. That's what I did with my Golf Game.
